(Cont) it would be hard to get out of bed in the morning, because I wanted to continue my daydreams. I would find myself losing focus during school, because I would continue these daydreams. And it was always a continuous stories, or multiple stories/worlds, especially if I read a new book or movie I really enjoyed, and that might become a new alternate world I put myself in and dreamed of. So now I understand what it is, and thank you for making this blog for all of us to come together :)
You’re welcome. And thank you for sharing your story with us, I know how hard that can be! I too have always been triggered to daydream from my anxiety and depression so I know where you’re coming from. If you ever want to share, ask, submit, etc. feel free! :D
It is certainly up to the MDer whether they feel the need to reach out for help or support, some people can live with MD with a sense of control over the rest of their lives despite its occasional disruption.
If you are looking for moral support there is plenty of it here on Tumblr! (: But if you are looking for more professional help I would suggest looking into therapy and choosing the cheapest option available if you are short on cash from day to day. I know plenty of universities and colleges have free therapy available on campus. The case with MD seems to always be related to something else, for example: trauma, ptsd, anxiety, depression, the need for coping and dissociation, the need for a sense of escape. I’ve found that while not many therapists know how to treat the daydreaming itself, they are great at getting to the route of what makes you want to escape and the more one works on that… the less daydreaming can feel necessary.
Its hard to tell if MD is an official mental disorder or not. A lot of sources list it as a “psychological concept” or simply define it without labeling it as a disorder. But the idea itself is being examined and studied as a disorder, the term “Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder” was coined by Eli Somer, Ph.D.
It seems to follow along with trauma or other mental disorders, so it may just be a coping mechanism, but it is maladaptive of course so I can’t see why one day it shouldn’t be labeled as an official disorder in itself.
ahaha I love this message. (: I love when people find things they enjoy on my blog, by all means feel free to like and reblog whatever you want and ask questions and submit things and such. Thats what I’m here for!
and you’re welcome, bless the Internet for sure
- breath in for 4 seconds
- hold your breath for 7 seconds
- exhale breath for 8 seconds
repeat once or twice more.
This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.
Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.
No need to be scared! It is (believe it or not) possible to live a normal life even if daydreaming is affecting you in a maladaptive way. I’m sure you already know that MD comes with its good and bad moments. At times, if you haven’t experienced it yet, there will be points in your life that may look bleak as if you are struggling with an addiction that you can’t let go. But you don’t have to allow yourself to get to those points. With support and understanding of the disorder and self care you can absolutely stay well and happy. Controlling your daydreams so that they don’t take over your life is the key. Taking care of you/who you are/your reality is always just as important as daydreaming can feel. (:
Telling people is definitely a personal decision that is totally fine either way. I was never interested in telling people until there came moments I felt like I had to. But the longer I have this blog the more I want to tell the world about my daydreaming haha. Which I probably shouldn’t…